My Mother

When my mother was living with me last year, I composed a five-page typewritten mini “autobiography” for her. Following the ideas from a website called “Living Legacies”, I questioned her extensively and discovered many things about her that I previously wasn’t aware of.

When she was born in the early 1930’s, there was a mid-wife to herald her birth. She was one of eleven children, born into poverty. Her parents did share-cropping for a few years and life was difficult in the country.

There was no electricity or running water. Coal oil lamps were used and there was an outhouse. They didn’t own a car, so walking was a necessity. A horse and wagon was used to transport their possessions when they moved. The boys were the horsepower to pull the plow for farming!

Rainwater was collected to wash hair and bath time came around once a week. Her mother would cut everyone’s hair when necessary. Although mom was a tall and skinny girl, she chopped wood, carried water from a spring, helped with doing laundry on a washboard, and would knock hens off of their nests, so she could gather their eggs. One of her sisters milked the cows. They had pigs and usually a few dogs and cats.

The boys would sleep together in one bed and the girls in another bed. Mom remembers having to pick dandelions for soup, because they had very little food. There were the cherished memories of her mother making cornbread, fried chicken, milk gravy, chicken & dumplings, bacon, eggs, and homemade blackberry pies.

Mother wore hand-me-down clothing and Grandma would make broom-stick skirts for the girls. When the holidays came, there were peppermint sticks for Christmas and Turkey was a treat for Thanksgiving.  She has fond memories of playing hide-n-seek, swimming in the creek, playing with dolls, and her brothers making homemade toys out of sticks.  They picked berries and shelled walnuts.

Gathered together, sitting on the floor, the children enjoyed listening to radio broadcasts of “The Shadow”, “Inner Sanctum” and the “Squeaky Door”.

She left home when she was 17 years old and lived with one of her older sisters for a year, before moving to the YWCA. She married my father in her early 20’s.

Life was difficult for Mom as she was raising her three children, because Dad changed jobs frequently and the lack of money was a constant. She felt frustrated because she couldn’t provide much for her children in the way of clothes or any activities that required money. There were no family vacations, except for camping.

Dad and Mom owned a Deli for a while, and Mother worked behind the counter, while Dad grew his beard long and traveled through Amish villages, purchasing meats and cheeses from them.

Mother’s next job was laundering napkins at a restaurant/nightclub. I had left home at this point and was in the military.

There was much turmoil through the years in my family and they ultimately divorced in 1981 and Mother moved to a small apartment. She met her next husband shortly thereafter and remarried in 1983.

For the past 20 years she was an Apartment Complex Manager and her husband was the Maintenance Man there. She has fond memories of her years with him, before he died in 2001. They went fishing, had picnics and grilled out, went to dinner with her sisters, had friends that lived in the apartment complex and enjoyed many good times with them.

Beginning around 1995, Mother had a ghost that would harass her every night in the apartment that she and her husband lived in, until she moved out in 2008. She had a team of paranormal investigators spend the night once and they recorded activity.

In November, 2008, Mother was informed that she has a giant aneurysm at the base of her skull and they didn’t want to operate on it. She was in a nursing home and not doing well, so I quit my job and she moved in to my home so that I could take care of her. She improved rapidly and a year later she moved into a senior citizen apartment nearby.

Just recently she fell and broke both of her arms…so she went back to a nursing home for a month before returning home.

The following are some of mother’s thoughts, beliefs and opinions:

• She believes in God, heaven and hell.

• If she could have three wishes they would be to own a small compact house, that my older brother would stop drinking and that her aneurysm would disappear.

• Her advice to young people is: To live life without drinking too much and without anger.

• Her advice to married people is: To love one another like you would love yourself.

• She is sometimes afraid of the thought of death and other times, not.

• Her greatest challenge in life has been her oldest son, because he has been mean and angry with her for most of his life.

• The most generous thing she’s ever done is: sacrificing many of her wants/needs/money in trying to change her son into a loving son.

• The meaning of life to her is: It is what you make it. God gave us life to see what kind of individuals we would be on earth.

My Amazing Grandfather

 

 

My paternal grandfather was an amazing man!  He is the boy sitting in the middle in the above picture.  The first time I remember meeting him, I was 16 years old.  I flew to Florida with my father…my first trip on a plane…and stayed with he and my grandmother for a week.  I was told they visited a couple of times during my childhood, but I have no memory of this.  He lived to be 100 and passed away in 2004.  He was still playing the violin, driving and using his computer!

He wrote a 35 page autobiography in the 90’s and I’d like to share some of it with you.  There are many stories that I’d like to share, but unfortunately, it was necessary to greatly condense it.  These are his words:

My ancestors came to Long Island from England and then settled in North Carolina in 1693.  I was born in Indiana and my father made a living repairing things, mostly watches and clocks.  In his spare time he made violins.  He was a nut about violins.  In fact, he would rather scratch a tune out of a violin than food out of the earth.

 

My Great-Grandfather

He told me in later years that he had made his first violin out of a shingle but when his father caught him playing it, he broke it into pieces.  The Quakers had strong beliefs about having too much fun and the violin was considered a tool of the devil.

My mother was a talented painter and painted professionally before she married Dad.  My father worked as a general mechanic for a period of time and one of the workmen gave me a large dry battery.  I began gathering discarded dry batteries that had been junked because of low voltage.  These connected in series would provide enough power to operate a small electric motor Dad had bought me, as well as a spark-coil.  The seed was sown.  That was the forerunner of me becoming a radio engineer.

My first job was picking strawberries on a farm about 3 miles from home, and I had to walk to work.  Next, I worked for the largest grocery store in town and was told I could eat anything in the store, and as much as I wanted, and I did.  I was 10 years old at the time and I suffered working the long hours.  I worked from 7am until 11pm, on my feet the entire time and then after the store closed I had to go with the delivery truck and deliver bushel baskets of food all over town.  I finished around 2:30am and then had to walk a mile home.  I usually couldn’t sleep very well after this because of severe leg cramps.

The next summer I worked for a sheet-metal company that made running boards, fenders and hoods for automobiles.  My pay was 7 cents an hour and I worked 10 hours per day.  I got a job at the “Remy Electric Company” the following summer.

About this time Dad began pressuring me to take up the violin, but I wasn’t interested.  He paid a teacher fifty cents a lesson to teach me, but when he decided I was spending too much time with electricity and not enough practicing the violin, he stopped paying the teacher.  My teacher told me that he would teach me for free if I wanted to continue.  I suppose it was just spite that caused me to continue with the lessons.  Later when I earned some money teaching violin, I repaid the teacher.

A friend had given me an old copy of the boy scout’s handbook that showed how to build a small receiver using a “coherer” and 2 electric door bells, and that’s how I made my first receiver.  My father had given me a nice seven jewel Elgin pocket watch in a gold filled case and I traded it to a school friend for a bunch of junk, coils, wire, a pair of headphones and a magnetic vibrator type battery charger.  When I brought the stuff home, I sure caught hell.  I got all of this for a bargain, because World War I had just been declared and the Commerce Department had stopped the use of all ham equipment.  Consequently, my friend had decided to get out of ham “wireless”.  The word “radio” was coined several years later.

 

He’s the fellow on the right

 

World War I was over and I got my ham operator and station licenses in 1920 and began operating legally.  Concurrently, I was taking violin lessons at the Metropolitan School of Music at Indianapolis, attending high school, and playing in the school orchestra.  When I was 16 years old, I decided to join the Musicians Union hoping to make a little money.  This was during the day of the silent movies.  I tried out for a job in the orchestra at the “Starland”, a local theater and got it.  The pay was $35 for seven days a week 2:00-4:00pm and 7:00-10:30pm.

I had various positions at the following venues:

Riviera Theaterviolinist; Meridian Theater Orchestra… Leader; Murat Theater; English Opera House; Ohio Theater; Isis Theater, Kokomo…Leader; Circle Theater, Indianapolis…Violinist; Lowe’s Palace Theater…Concert Master; and the Madison Theater, Illinois…Violinist, Indiana Theater; Concert Master at Cincinnati Civic Symphony; Orange College Symphony Orchestra, California; Stetson University Symphony; Concert Master with the Daytona Beach Little Symphony and Director of the Debary Concert Orchestra.

 

He’s the tall guy behind the drummer


Many of the big name stars were in these shows, such as Eddie Cantor, Jack Benny, Al Jolson, Fannie Brice, Bob Hope, Dick Powell and Paul Whiteman.

In 1923, I married my wife and nine months later our first son was born, followed in 1929 with our last son.

After retiring in 1969, I played for the Hendersonville Symphony, in North Carolina and gave violin performances at churches, the Salvation Army, and retirement homes.

My other positions were as follows:

  • Phototone Company in Indiana as designer of amplifiers for their theater sound systems and then promoted to Chief.
  • Eli Lilly traveling to hospitals and clinics showing a film about insulin for diabetes that they had just developed.
  • WLW in Cincinnati as an engineer in the studio, master control recording, remote pickups, transmitter operation and maintenance.  I was working there during the Flood of 1937. It was a sight to behold, looking down into 3rd street below, seeing small boats traveling in the water covering the street pavement.
  • WSAI as Chief Engineer.
  • VOA, Munich, Germany, Transmitter Supervisor, Foreign Service Staff Officer in the State Dept. and then Studio Supervisor.
  • United States Information Agency, Bonn, Germany as Technical Chief of the Radio Branch and later transferred to W. Berlin in the same capacity.
  • Chief at KFOX in California.
  • I started a company that did consulting for the Defense Contracting Industry.
  • Radio Free Europe, Darmstadt, Germany and lived there for 11 years before retiring to Florida.

Some of my other accomplishments include:

  • Designed and built a portable sound projector – – assigned patent rights to a Company in exchange for commission.  The Company went bankrupt during the 1929 stock market crash.
  • Built a portable public address system – made extra money with it through neighborhood picnics and on the side for WLW.
  • Elected Steward and Executive Board Member and later Local Union President and Business Mgr. for the new Union (I believe it was IBEW).
  • Member of The Masonic Blue Lodge, Scottish Rite & Syrian Temple Shrine.
  • I visited Mittenwald, Germany, bought 100 yr. old wood, shipped it to my father in Indiana and he made two violins, which he thought were the finest in his collection.

One of my favorite writers, Sydney Harris said “The violin is unique in that no other instrument sounds more heavenly when played well or more agonizing when played badly”.

Here are a few of my observations:

Knowledge, education, curiosity, imagination and perseverance all went into the making of the transistor and I believe the transistor and its progeny have done more for our scientific world today than anything else.  Just look at what has been accomplished with the use of electronics in medical science.  The microchip, which is nothing more than many tiny transistors in a small package.  It is extremely important in the space program, computers and most electronic devices.

Those five words: knowledge, education, curiosity, imagination and perseverance applies to anything worth doing.  There is a sixth word–challenge, which is of great importance.  All of these, coupled with an understanding of human nature are the ingredients necessary for getting along in this world.  It is also a good idea to practice “The Golden Rule”.

 

This was his 80th Birthday party.  They had a

40-year-old belly dancer for him.

 

 

The same belly dancer came out of retirement

20 years later for his 100th Birthday party!